Archive for December, 2008By Suzann Pileggi - December 27, 2008
Do We Have a Choice?
Mindfulness creates a mental distance between one and one’s behavior. This “observant stance” increases self-awareness and the opportunity to choose and direct our actions. In fact, mindfulness enables us to tap our collective strengths and act on them. I believe that mindfulness helps cultivate character by bolstering the full 24 strengths. In Talks to Teachers, William James emphasizes the importance of paying attention to what we do. He argues that we need to maximize and focus our energy in order to fulfill our potential for the good life. Like William James, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi of Claremont Graduate University suggests that controlling our willful attention impacts our feelings and makes life happy or miserable. Csikszentmihalyi argues that most people use their minds as little as possible and “fall far below their capacity for processing information.” Only through consciously directed energy, congruent with our goals, do we create more optimal experiences or “flow” in our lives. Positive psychology demonstrates that we can improve happiness by changing how we focus on the world. I believe mindfulness is a first step to make this happen. A natural strength for some, for the majority of others (particularly Americans), mindfulness is something we need to practice. Benefits of Mindfulness
Mindfulness uplifts ourselves, and elevates others as well, by increasing self-regulation, a key component of emotional intelligence (EQ). EQ, rather than IQ, has been linked to greater flourishing by producing positive outcomes across all domains of life. By focusing our energy on regulating our behavior and increasing mindfulness, we can learn to act in ways that enable us to achieve our desired goals (e.g., lose weight, write that novel, save money, etc.). Mindfulness can teach us how to be emotionally “smarter” by enhancing critical life-skills that help us create healthy habits. James argues that acquired good habits, unlike instinctual ones, are learned entirely through practice. Mindfulness Can Help Build a Better Society A person who exhibits mindfulness displays it in most areas of their life and rather consistently. Epitomes of mindfulness like Buddha, Jesus, and the Dalai Lama live their lives fully present and deliberately.
A Mindful Life Can Lead You to Your Goals in 2009
Images: watching TV, mindfulness bell, trees, melons, zen References are in the first comment below this article. This article first appeared on Positive Psychology News Daily. To see the original article, click here. To comment on this article, click here.
By Guest Author - December 25, 2008 By Ryan M. Niemiec, Guest Author
Social Fabric
The Positive Snowball
Just as negative experiences can lead to more negative experiences (the snowball effect), positive changes can do the same creating a “positive snowball” effect. Adept positive psychologists and coaches capitalize on this virtuous circle in their work with clients, helping them to build strengths that in turn “build up” other strengths. Curiosity as a Doorway to Coming Alive Walter’s curiosity in humanity and in different cultural practices emerges and piques as he reaches out to help others. Todd Kashdan of George Mason University and Michael Steger of Colorado State University describe in a 2007 paper the character strength of curiosity and how it assists in constructing and searching for meaning in life: Walter’s burgeoning curiosity for life, humanity, and music clearly leads to a deeper sense of life meaning. Walter begins to find meaning in playing music and in the lives of three individuals cast aside by society. The virtuous circle opens up and Walter’s strengths of open-mindedness, fairness, playfulness, and kindness reinforce his strengths of curiosity and meaning/purpose (spirituality). The theme of meeting and developing “unlikely friendships” is not a new one to director Tom McCarthy, who explored the transformative role of connection between an isolated dwarf, a suicidal woman, and quirky hot dog vendor in the cinematic gem, The Station Agent (2003). These three characters, prior to their friendship, would answer the preceding questions in the same way as Walter. What Does “Visiting” Mean?
Subtlety in this beautiful little film captures a number of humanity’s moments: the slow movement toward the social, curious thoughts leading to a purpose. These are turning-point moments of choice in which self-reflection leads to a change in perspective, the gleeful smile of a character receiving a surprise, and the comforting joy of someone who knows their gift has been well-received. This film reminds us that life is a collection of moments. References Kashdan, T., & Steger, M. (2007). Curiosity and pathways to well-being and meaning in life: Traits, states, and everyday behaviors. Motivation and Emotion, 31, 159–173. Keyes, C. L. M. (2002). The mental health continuum: From languishing to flourishing in life. Journal Health and Behavior Research, 43, 207–222. Niemiec, R. M., & Wedding, D. (2008). Positive psychology at the movies: Using films to build virtues and character strengths. Gottingen, Germany: Hogrefe. This article first appeared on Positive Psychology News Daily. To see the original article, click here. To comment on this article, click here. By Marie-Josée Salvas - December 24, 2008
If you choose self-regulation over temptation, chances are you will be satisfied and energetic. If on the other hand you give in and pig out, you will experience the bloated and guilty feeling that inevitably follows overeating. So what do you do? Here are my top 10 strategies for healthy buffet-management. 1. Be Prepared. Studies by Roy Baumeister of Florida State University and colleagues demonstrate a small dose of carbohydrate can help replenish a depleted ability to self-regulate. My first suggestion: make sure you are not completely starving when you get to the buffet! If you deprive yourself of food prior to the event, not only will your will power be long-gone, but your ability to justify overeating will also be increased, quite a counter-productive strategy. 2. Pace Dishes. Take out healthier foods (a veggie tray, multigrain crackers with low-fat cheese) before you serve the buttery puffed pastries and other creamy bites. Your guests will fill up on the good stuff and be stronger for what follows. 3. Choose Your Trays Wisely. Serve healthier options in larger serving trays and use larger serving utensils. Keep the least commendable options in smaller dishes and serve them with your tiny cutlery. Paul Rozin of the University of Pennsylvania has found that Americans use larger serving sizes than Europeans, and that when smaller serving sizes are used, people eat less. 4. Place Your Trays Wisely. To maximize profits, buffets tend to place cheaper foods in areas that are most accessible because they know that patrons are more likely to serve themselves more of it. Use this strategy to your advantage and make lighter foods the easiest to grab.
6. Water It Down. Replacing one or two alcoholic beverages with water can easily shave as much as 300 empty calories off your meal, not to mention that it helps fill up the stomach quicker. To make your pitcher nice and appealing, add slices of strawberries, orange, lemon as well as mint leaves. This option is tasty, interesting, and full of vitamins! 7. Just Right. People tend to agree that “one is appropriate.” If you serve a piece of pie weighing 10 ounces, that’s what your guests will eat. If your serving size is 4 ounces, they are very likely to stop there. Try serving your deserts in small pre-cut pieces. (Caution here! If the serving is so small that it looks bite-size, the strategy will backfire!) 8. Get Moving. Plan an activity shortly after the meal to detract attention away from eating and towards connecting. If that activity involves mild caloric expenditure (a Wii or ping-pong tournament, walking in the neighborhood to admire decorations, etc.), you get bonus points. Your family get together will have more to offer than just food.
10. Yes To a Buddy System. Getting peer support is an important ingredient when enacting change. If food acts on you like a magnet on metal, ask a buddy to nudge you if you go overboard. If that’s not enough to discourage you, take a formal bet to pay your accomplice $100 for each plate of food you eat past your main course and desert. That should do it! Lastly, the Holidays may be the last week of the year, and you may want to give yourself carte blanche to not self-regulate and that’s fair game too. If that’s your choice, just remember that the expression “use it or lose it” applies here, so I would recommend using a “controlled self-deregulation” strategy rather than a total gluttonous feast.
Happy Holidays everyone! Images: Holiday Buffet , Holiday Bouquet, Arm Twister References Baumeister, R. F., Gailliot, M., DeWall, C. N., & Oaten, M. (2006). Self-regulation and personality: How interventions increase regulatory success, and how depletion moderates the effects of traits on behavior. Journal of Personality, 74(6), 1773-1801. Boyle, M.A. & Long, S. (2007). Personal Nutrition (with InfoTrac 1-Semester Printed Access Card). Sixth Edition. Belmont, CA: Thomson Wadsworth. Prochaska, J.O., Norcross, J.C. & Diclemente, C.C. (1994). Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward. New York: HarperCollins. Rozin, P. (2006). Lecture for the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology. Thaler, R. H. & Sunstein, C.R. (2008). Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness. New Haven, CT: Yale University Press. This article first appeared on Positive Psychology News Daily. To see the original article, click here. To comment on this article, click here. Marie-Josee Salvas, MAPP, is the Co-Founder of Optimal Living, a company that offers Health and Wellbeing Consultancy services to individuals, corporations and communities. Marie-Josee has taught over 400 instruction sessions internationally. Full bio. Marie-Josee writes on the 24th of each month, and her past articles are here. By Gail Schneider - December 23, 2008
This year, I am determined to change it up and see what happens when I add some positive psychology principles to the mix. Appreciatively Ask Myself
For example, when I look back at the periods last year when I was most successful in maintaining a consistent pattern of exercise, I noticed that it was the several months right before the presidential election. I was riveted by the primary season and once the candidate slates were selected, they never failed to disappoint. Several days of the week I’d go to the gym and watch MSNBC and CNN simultaneously, switching between the 2 channels depending on the images on the screen and the crawl below. Before I knew it I had done 50 minutes on the elliptical machine without ever having looked at my watch. Now I know I can’t wait another four years before I go back to the gym, and even I have a limit for listening to pundits speculating about the Obama’s search for a new puppy, but I have learned that exercising while engaged in watching something that captures my attention makes the time fly by. Building on Strengths, Not Weaknesses Another step in the process is to build on strengths, not on weakness. It is no surprise that when I took the VIA questionnaire, self-regulation was lowest on my list. An unrealistic directive that I must exercise six-days-a-week is a recipe for failure for someone like me who is missing the “self-regulation” chip in her brain. I have other strengths like zest, wisdom, and love of learning and I can already envision numerous ways I can use these strengths to achieve my exercise and other goals. I found a yoga class I love (which allows me to connect with my inner wisdom), and going there twice a week has been a joy not a chore. I don’t need to resolve to go there; I want to go there, and that has made all the difference. Recognizing and Being Grateful for My Wins Finally I plan to add the practice of gratitude to the New Year’s resolution process. Robert Emmons’ new book thanks! is a comprehensive review of the power of gratitude and its ability to positively impact our psychological and physical well-being. Each of us may not have the self-regulation required to keep a nightly gratitude journal, but this time of year is a natural point of endings and beginnings, and so it is a perfect time for introspection and reflection on the many reasons we have to be grateful. It is through the lens of gratitude and on that far sturdier foundation that I will choose to look forward to 2009 and plan my future. A Small Gift to You In closing, I have a small gift for all the readers of Positive Psychology News Daily. It is one of my favorite poems. It is taped to the inside of a closet door in my home office. While I wish every reader a year of good health, happiness and prosperity, this is a gift for you when life disappoints, and you face challenges big and small or even those that blindside you and take your breath away. I have been there, it has comforted me, and I hope whenever you may need it, it will comfort you as well.
Images: Exercise, New Year’s Resolutions, Rumi
Reference: Cooperrider, D. & Whitney, D. (2005). Appreciative Inquiry: A Positive Revolution in Change. San Francisco: Berrett- Koehler Publishers. Emmons, Robert A. (2007). Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier. New York: Houghton Mifflin Company. VIA Questionnaire retrieved from Authentic Happiness website. http://authentichappiness.org. This article first appeared on Positive Psychology News Daily. To see the original article, click here. To comment on this article, click here. Gail A. Schneider, J.D., MAPP, brings to positive psychology an extensive background from the world of big business. After a 20 year career at JPMorgan Chase where she was an Executive Vice-President, she now works and writes on the issues of life transitions and the search for meaning and purpose in mid-life. Email Gail. Full bio. Gail writes on the 23rd of every even month, and her past articles are here. By Derrick Carpenter - December 22, 2008 Does Altruism Come in Various Types?
Evolutionary theorists have used a divide-and-conquer approach to tackle the foundations for altruism. Some of the biggest altruistic moves we make are for our children. Under a model of evolution in which individuals are invested in the survival of their genes, helping a relative – who shares some of your own genes – will accomplish this, so altruism towards relatives makes sense. But we often do good deeds for friends and acquaintances as well. Some of these deeds are explained by the notion of reciprocal altruism, which operates via reciprocity. I will do a good deed for you now knowing that in the future, when I need help, you will return the favor. It’s sort of a social insurance policy. But how can we account the altruistic things we do without expectation of return or, for that matter, the help we offer to complete strangers including people across the world who we will never see? Is There Pure Altruism? A recent study at the University of Oregon used functional MRI machines to observe changes in brain patterns of participants in different giving conditions. Participants were given $100 and some were given the option to donate a portion of the money to a charity while others were levied a mandatory tax that was given to the charity. For the subjects in the optional giving condition, the researchers attempted to remove any standard rewards for giving to charity, like enjoying the “warm glow” effect of others admiring your charitable deeds or avoiding the social shame of not giving. The subjects made their choice in privacy, without anyone involved in study knowing how much, if any, money was donated. Some people have claimed the study as evidence of pure altruism since many participants still donated.
Perhaps the topic of pure altruism demands a paradigm shift. Professor and positive psychology bigwig Chris Peterson has noted that humans can get so caught up in human inability that we take for granted human abilities. Car accidents reported on the evening news inevitably capture our attention and force us to question what could have gone wrong. We infrequently consider that millions of drivers successfully and safely navigate roadways at lethal speeds coming just a few feet from unforgiving obstacles every day. A change of perspective can highlight how truly remarkable and amazing a human ability this is. Rather than groaning about the lack of pure altruism in the world, perhaps we need to change perspective and celebrate the grand human experience of feeling good when we commit a truly altruistic act. Our recipient benefits, but so do we. This seems part of the magic of the human experience. Perhaps even a human ability? Psychological Benefits of Altruism
The bus next to us, however, had had trouble organizing their bags and a frustrated mob of cold runners was forming behind it. Watching them shiver in their shorts, I joined them to help however I could. I asked one or two dour-faced marathoners for their bib numbers and hopped on the bus to track them down. I was only able to help seven or eight runners, but the grateful look on their faces when I returned their precious bags gave me a serious warm glow. While helping to relieve the tired and cold brave bodies of these runners, I completely forgot about how tired and cold I was. The lack of pure altruism among humans is a truly beautiful thing, a consequence of our innate predispositions to help our fellow neighbor. Would any of us prefer to live in a dark world in which good deeds required pain and suffering? The seemingly paradoxical connection of selflessness and selfishness makes me smile with a sense of hope about the human condition. 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